We want the ‘inner voice’ of children to be healthy and happy.
Be considerate and learn active listening skills when talking with children.
Make conversation with our children a priority.

When I think back to my childhood there were words that affected who I am today. Some words had a positive affect. Others were not so positive. These were from parents and other adults such as teachers, relatives and youth leaders.

Think back to your childhood and what words affected you.

We want to be sure that the ‘inner voice’ we plant in our children’s minds is a healthy and happy one.

HERE ARE SOME THOUGHTS ABOUT COMMUNICATING WITH OUR CHILDREN.

Ask Questions.

Rather than lecture, ask questions. You can ask, “What else do you think that person can do?” or “What is the message of that song?”
Then really listen to what they have to say.
Confirm and discuss opinions expressed. This is one way to supply undivided attention.
Learn the art of listening. When they speak, you are listening.
They will know that their voice is being heard.

Be Considerate.

Think about the way that you talk to your friends.
Think about the way you speak to children. Is it with the same consideration and tone?
When talking to children give them the same consideration as when talking to friends.
This results in better relationships with our children.

Don’t Interrupt.

Try not to interrupt or scold them when they are telling you a story.
Practice active listening.
Let them finish their story.
They will lose interest in sharing their feelings with you if you shift away from their story.
Don’t interrupt to teach them a lesson. You can always discuss that later.
Listen to them until they finish telling you all about their experiences.

Show Acceptance.

Show children that you accept and love them just the way they are. They are all different.
Accept them and they will be more likely to share their feelings and problems with you.
They will know that as they grow and change, you will be there for them no matter what.
Of course, we do not have to accept inappropriate behavior such as violence or teasing.
We can accept and love children with their different characters, personalities and interests.

Make Conversation with Children a Priority.

Open and comfortable communication with children develops confidence, self-esteem, good relationships with others.
It also develops cooperation and positive relationships with you.
Make time and take effort to foster your relationship and communication skills. Talk with them as much as you can.
Remember that talking with kids is a two way street. Talk with them and then hear what they have to say.
Listening is as important as talking. Often it is more important.

Kate Simonds TED Talk.

In February of this year, we have a post about Kate Simonds and her TEDx Talk.

It is entitled “I’m Seventeen. She stated, “Teens, you need to believe in your voices, and adults, you need to listen.“

If you wish to review it and watch Kate’s TED Talk, you can find it at:

http://www.ourfutureleaders.ca/program-activities/im-seventeen-by-kate-simonds/

Listening is a key skill to practice in our coaching programs.

LEARN MORE:

Are you are interested in learning more about group coaching?

If so, contact me to obtain a report on a simple and easy system on how to set up group coaching programs for youth. You can do this in the ‘Contact us‘ section of the website.

Please contact me to enter the discussion, REQUEST A FREE COPY OF THE GROUP COACHING PLAYBOOK and JOIN THE REGULAR COACHES FORUM.

Wishing you lots of love and laughter, as always.

Fred Jones

Victoria, BC Canada

Fred Jones

We want the ‘inner voice’ of children to be healthy and happy.

Be considerate and learn active listening skills when talking with children.

Make conversation with our children a priority.

When I think back to my childhood there were words that affected who I am today. Some words had a positive affect. Others were not so positive. These were from parents and other adults such as teachers, relatives and youth leaders.

Think back to your childhood and what words affected you.

We want to be sure that the ‘inner voice’ we plant in our children’s minds is a healthy and happy one.

HERE ARE SOME THOUGHTS ABOUT COMMUNICATING WITH OUR CHILDREN.

Ask Questions.

Rather than lecture, ask questions. You can ask, “What else do you think that person can do?” or “What is the message of that song?”

Then really listen to what they have to say.

Confirm and discuss opinions expressed. This is one way to supply undivided attention.

Learn the art of listening. When they speak, you are listening.

They will know that their voice is being heard.

Be Considerate.

Think about the way that you talk to your friends.

Think about the way you speak to children. Is it with the same consideration and tone?

When talking to children give them the same consideration as when talking to friends.

This results in better relationships with our children.

Don’t Interrupt.

Try not to interrupt or scold them when they are telling you a story.

Practice active listening.

Let them finish their story.

They will lose interest in sharing their feelings with you if you shift away from their story.

Don’t interrupt to teach them a lesson. You can always discuss that later.

Listen to them until they finish telling you all about their experiences.

Show Acceptance.

Show children that you accept and love them just the way they are. They are all different.

Accept them and they will be more likely to share their feelings and problems with you.

They will know that as they grow and change, you will be there for them no matter what.

Of course, we do not have to accept inappropriate behavior such as violence or teasing.

We can accept and love children with their different characters, personalities and interests.

Make Conversation with Children a Priority.

Open and comfortable communication with children develops confidence, self-esteem, good relationships with others.

It also develops cooperation and positive relationships with you.

Make time and take effort to foster your relationship and communication skills. Talk with them as much as you can.

Remember that talking with kids is a two way street. Talk with them and then hear what they have to say.

Listening is as important as talking. Often it is more important.

Kate Simonds TED Talk.

In February of this year, we have a post about Kate Simonds and her TEDx Talk.

It is entitled “I’m Seventeen. She stated, “Teens, you need to believe in your voices, and adults, you need to listen.“

If you wish to review it and watch Kate’s TED Talk, you can find it at:

http://www.ourfutureleaders.ca/program-activities/im-seventeen-by-kate-simonds/

Listening is a key skill to practice in our coaching programs.

LEARN MORE:

Are you are interested in learning more about group coaching?

If so, contact me to obtain a report on a simple and easy system on how to set up group coaching programs for youth. You can do this in the ‘Contact us‘ section of the website.

Please contact me to enter the discussion, REQUEST A FREE COPY OF THE GROUP COACHING PLAYBOOK and JOIN THE REGULAR COACHES FORUM.

Wishing you lots of love and laughter, as always.

Fred Jones

Victoria, BC Canada

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