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Taking responsibility for our lives can be challenging.
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We can assist our youth in learning to be responsible.
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This approach leads to a happy and successful life.
Taking responsibility for our life can lead to a happy and successful one. This can be a challenge.
We can assist our youth to become responsible for their lives. This key skill is one in which we can coach our youth to achieve.
BENEFITS OF ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY:
Gaining Trust And Respect: – When you are responsible your word has more meaning to other people. You earn their respect.
Fewer Negative Emotions: –When you blame others, you may feel anger or resentment towards them. You will often feel guilty, ashamed or powerlessness. You may become depressed.
Freedom: –You gain the freedom to create your own life, any way you want it. This is liberating.
OVER INDULGED AND ENTITLED:
We hear more about the “over indulged and entitled generation.” These young people do not exhibit responsibility.
They are often:
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demanding;
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not trying to do their best;
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expecting things to be done for them;
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showing no gratitude;
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feeling they never have enough ‘things’;
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impatient;
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frustrated;
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not admitting to mistakes, and
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not giving back at home or in the community.
This is caused by such actions as :
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Giving them too many material things.
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Having too many activities without expecting them to fulfill their obligations.
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Doing things for them that they are able to do for themselves.
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Not expecting or demanding enough of them.
AVOIDING OVER INDULGENCE:
Help our children feel good about themselves and learn to be responsible.
This can include:
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setting expectations and limits;
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saying no;
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holding them accountable;
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establishing and enforcing rules;
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assigning chores and following up;
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setting and following through with consequences, and
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encouraging them to give back.
Allowing a child to “do it his way” will encourage a feeling of pride in accomplishment and foster a sense of responsibility.
Children with high self-esteem tend to be more responsible.
They are better at:
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sticking to a task;
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waiting for what they want – they believe that with persistence and practice they can reach a goal;
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acknowledging their mistakes and learning from them;
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asking for help;
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being clear about their strengths and weaknesses;
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taking risks and trying new things;
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believing that they can solve problems they encounter.
HOW TO INSTILL SELF-ESTEEM IN OUR YOUTH:
One way is by providing messages that build each of the two essential components of self-esteem.
Feeling Loved: -Children feel loved when they have a sense of worth, when they feel appreciated and loved for who they are.
Feeling Capable: –When they have a sense of power, competency and control over their lives they feel pride in accomplishment.
When they are capable, they gain self-esteem which fosters responsibility.
They are more likely to:
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meet their obligations;
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sign on for new tasks;
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try their hardest and feel good about what they do.
We can increase their sense of responsibility by giving them feedback.
We can refer to things such as their special areas of talent, their growth and potential.
HOW TO BE RESPONSIBLE (AND BUILD SELF-ESTEEM):
You can tell them:
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when you agree to do something, do it;
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answer for your own actions;
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take care of your own matters;
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be trustworthy;
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think about what you are doing;
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Don’t put things off.
As stated earlier, taking responsibility for our lives can be very challenging.
Through our coaching, we can assist our youth in becoming happy and successful.
Please share your ideas on how we can assist our youth to take responsibility for their lives.
If you require more details, please contact us.
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Wishing you lots of love and laughter, as always.
Fred Jones
Victoria, BC Canada
Fred Jones